YOU Are Your Longest Relationship

When I share this with clients they are often confronted with a shift in perspective.

From looking outwardly for others to meet and fulfill their needs to beginning to realize they are the only ones now to know exactly what they need and deserve. Deserve...also a word that activates thoughts and emotions on a very deep level. Again, I remind them - we are all inherently deserving. Although there is suffering in life, we are not meant to stay stuck in suffering. We are meant to transcend it.

When we are little, it is true, we need our caregivers to meet our needs and reflect our inner essence and worth back to us. And I do not know a single person whose caregivers were able to do this perfectly 100% of the time. It is unrealistic. Therefore, when we grow up, there comes a time when we get to re-examine our expectations for ourselves and others. We get to re-parent ourselves in the most ideal way. And we are the only ones who know exactly what we needed when we were little and did not get. This does take some courage and introspection to remember. That is the beauty of knowing that you are your longest relationship. You get to meet all of those unmet needs for yourself. How healing it is to know that you have everything you need within you to feel whole and complete? The quest begins when we get curious about what those needs are and connect back to our own inherent wisdom, which is always within us, to reclaim our inherent wholeness and worth.

This is the quest of a lifetime. The question becomes: when does your courage surpass your fear? When does your desire to live in the present become more powerful than the pull to re-living the past? When does your own inherent wisdom and truth get louder than the cries and unmet needs from your inner child? In fact, imagine standing in the present, deeply connected to your inherent wisdom in 2024, and going back to this younger version of yourself and giving them exactly what you know they needed. And dare I say, DESERVED.